on sacrifices

Life isn't fair. Whoever said it was didn't know what they were talking about.

We make decisions everyday. We make choices-- some are easy to make and some are difficult. Each choice we make has a consequence. We ALWAYS give up something in return for the choice we make-- great or small. We sacrifice something to get what we want and we never win both ways. We never can. On rare occassions, we do win on both occassions but sometimes WHILE WE WIN, SOMEONE ELSE or SOMETHING ELSE is sacrificed for the choice we made. I first learned about the concept of "trade-off" from my Econ class in college. That's what trade-off is all about-- when we choose something, we give up something else.

It seems pretty trivial but when you apply it to the concept of life, it gets frustrating. Why can't we just win both ways so that everyone's happy and nobody loses? But that's life, I guess. We need to make choices and sometimes in the process of making choices, we hurt people along the way. I'm sure it is not our intention to hurt them. Sometimes hurting someone is inevitable. Sometimes we just need to set our priorities straight and priority no.1 always loses over no.2.

That's why the phrase "I have no choice" is not acceptable. We all have choices and it's just that we can never win both ways. One way or the other you have to sacrifice something. One of the saddest realities of life: we cannot have it all.